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Lily likes to do little dances, after which she expects us to clap and say “bravo! bravo!”  Except she thinks the word is “robbo!  robbo!” And if you say it wrong, she gets mad.

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Yesterday, she was cleaning up some blocks, and did NOT want help.  She gave me the stink eye, while continuing to put blocks in the box, and made up a little song:

“I cleaning up the blocks, and  You.  Don’t.  Help.  Me.  I singing little song and YOU.  DON’T.  SING.  IT.”

(rhythm, so I don’t forget it when I’m old and grey,  = 1, 2 and 3 and 4 and 1, 2, 3, 4.)

Pinterest WIN!

This morning, I saw an idea on Pinterest, and I put it right into action!  Of course, L didn’t like it the way it was “supposed” to go, so I had to adjust, but still.  Pinterest WIN.

The idea was to sort matchbox cars by color onto pieces of colored paper.  She was skeptical about the paper part of it.  Totally willing to sort, but unwilling to sully her precious coloring paper.  So…we sorted onto the lines in the rug.  Works for me.

And I took pictures, because that’s how I roll.

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I took pictures of Rob reading to the kids this morning.

 

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Rob is awesome.  And my family makes good funny faces.

 

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They also hug and that’s good too.

 

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Yesterday, I went out thrift shopping with my aunt.  It was a lot of fun.  We hit one place that didn’t seem at all like a thrift store to me.  It was upscale women’s (old ladies’) consignment, mixed with a lot of new accessories and home decor merch.  LOTS of expensive boxy jackets.  I did pick up a (new) melon-colored ruffled scarf there.  I’ve been wearing a lot of scarves this winter, like casually looped over a plain colored t-shirt.  I really like the look.  And it would be nice to add something so complexion-flattering as a coral/melon color, and I don’t have anything warm-colored in my stash yet, so this was a good choice.  The ruffles are just added fun.

I hit my favorite kids’ consignment shop, and got a bunch of things for L and a few items for N.  My favorite buy was a little set for L from Janie and Jack.  It’s a pale blue plaid skirt and matching capelet (with long-sleeved shirt for underneath.)  SO ADORABLE.  And it was an amazing bargain.  Funny thing…it’s clearly been worn once or twice.  I would say it’s in excellent, but certainly used condition.  But here’s the thing.  The little basting stitches that hold the pleats together have never been removed.  You must know what I mean…like the little X-shaped tack that holds a kick pleat down on a skirt, or the stitches that hold men’s suit coat pockets shut.  You take those off when you’re going to WEAR the garment.  Right?  I mean, people know that, generally, right?  Not to leave weird super obvious BASTING stitches in place?  But apparently not.  I commented on it to the consignment shop owner, and she said they get things in once in a while like that.  Or boys suits that have been worn but still have the manufacturer label basted onto the sleeve.  Like, they wore it to a wedding that way?  She said she guessed people just didn’t know.  It seems pretty clear to me, but…oh well.  So I’ll be taking those basting stitches out before L wears it.  Naturally.

My aunt and I went out to lunch, and I spilled strawberry lemonade all over my lap.  Nice.

We talked a little about planning for my grandma’s 90th birthday party, and about my grandma’s stash of family photos and what my aunt really wants done with them.  I think we had some good conversation.

Last night, we showed L the movie “Cars” for the first time for our family movie night.  She liked it.  Maybe she’ll want to inherit N’s gigantic cache of Cars cars.  He never plays with them anymore.  She slept with a green and a purple Ramone car last night.

Oh, speaking of which, L still likes to sleep with a big assortment of toys in the bed with her.

And here’s what it looks like when a 6-year-old boy plays My Little Pony with his sister.  At least in my house.

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Way too much talking about dishes

I bought bowls the other day, to replace the bright plastic gerber baby-food bowls in which I was still serving my kids’ meals.  Kind of tired of the plastic, and N was starting to ask to have “big kid” bowls instead.  The bowls that are part of my dish set have a shallow slope to the edges, so the kids tend to push stuff up and out when they use them.  Not ideal.  Also, and I don’t know if you know this, but I kind of have a thing for bowls.  I LOVE bowls.  It’s hard for me to not acquire all of the pretty bowls that I see and I like.  My pressssshusssss….

Where was I?  Oh yes.  I indulged, for once, in my desire to buy some bowls.  (Urged on by Rob saying, “when are you going to go buy some new bowls?”)  I wanted something with a steep side, fairly deep, and honestly, I like the little foot/stand on the bottom.  I really like the shape of Anthropologie’s latte bowls…

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…but I was just not too keen on the color options.  So I went looking.  And I found just what I wanted at Bed Bath & Beyond, on clearance, even!  Sweet deal.  I got these bowls in white, and in royal blue.  (My main dishes are blue willow, so the blue and white goes with what I have.)

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In other dishware news, when I was out, I saw my very own blue willow pattern, but in BLACK.  They look SO PRETTY.  And they call them “midnight willow”, which sounds so romaaaaannnnntic and lovely.  Midnight.  Willow.  OH it was so hard not to buy them.  The blue willow pattern is a very old dish pattern, and there is a lot of variety in the pattern when made by different manufacturers in different time periods.  You get a lot of variety in the middle scene, and a lot of variety in the edge treatments.  If you collect antique blue willow (which my high school best friend’s mother did, which was probably one of my major influences in liking it so much), you will see a wide variety, but they will all look pretty together.  But this Midnight Willow set that I saw is MY EXACT pattern, only in black.  I just thought it would look so pretty in the fall, with brown and orange and natural tan linens.  All those fall colors clash a bit with my blue dishes.  SIGH.  My life as a homemaker is full of strife, people.  BLACK WILLOW.  It’s where it’s at.  (For those times when Blue Willow doesn’t cut it.  Which is almost never because blue willow rocks the bomb’s socks off, never gonna give you up, let you down, run around and desert you, etc.)

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Anyway, enough about bowls.

I BOUGHT GLASSES TOO!!!!!  I know…SHOCKER.  These are them.  They are acrylic, and I think they, too, bridge the gap nicely between baby plastic bright colored toddler cups (which N now rejects), and actual heavy glassware, which I don’t especially want to give to L.  Frankly, I still make her use a sippy-top cup, because she plays and spills and puts things in her drinks and I am not a fan of cleaning all that up all the time.  Also, she plays with her stuff and knocks it off the table ALL THE LIVE LONG DAY.  So, yeah, just no.  She gets sippy cups until she is 17.  The two sets of glasses that we got when we got married (neither of which we picked out and both of which were lovely gifts) have now gotten etched by the dishwasher to the point where I am embarrassed to serve guests in them.  They look filthy all the time.  So, out with the old, in with the new.  I figured since I was buying a set of old fashioneds, to be short glasses for N, I might as well buy a set of highballs to be tall glasses for the rest of us.  Done, and done.  (And…shhhhh….don’t tell anyone, but I PREFER a plastic glass for drinking my water.  It’s not so heavy.  I told Rob this, and he teased me (because that’s how we roll), “Is a glass glass TOO HEAVY for you to LIFT to your LIPS?  Oh POOR HEATHER, etc.”  Ha.  He is a dork.  But yes, Rob, the glass glass is too heavy for me and I’ve been suffering in silence for many many years now and now I bought plastic glasses YAY.)

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In other news

  • I just looked up “simple cow diagram” online, to show L the difference between where the milk comes out and where the poop comes out.  Yay for the internet!
  • N has no school today, so he’s getting a haircut, going to a play date, and going to a birthday party. Busy day!
  • My kids seem to be incapable of playing in the same room without screaming at each other.  It drives me batty.  One of the other of them always thinks they are the boss of all the toys in the room, and the sibling’s mere presence is INTOLERABLY GALLING.  Just as I was writing this, I heard a whistle start blowing, and then N’s voice came from the front room, hollering at L to knock it off.  I peeked around the corner, and saw him sitting quietly, reading on the couch, and her sitting next to him puffing on a whistle.  Like, RIGHT next to him.  Just blowing that whistle as hard as she could, over and over.  Not into his ear or anything, but just right next to him, like *thisclose*, blowing on a whistle.  And I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t tolerate someone blowing a whistle right next to me when I was trying to read.  Not for very long.  There’s a lot of that type of thing around here.

So, this seems kind of strange.  Two times in the last couple of months, now, I have been shopping the the produce section in the middle of the day, with my wedding ring on and my toddler around my knees (= old married lady), when Hispanic men shopping by themselves have offered to help me choose avocados.  Is this a thing, now?  Because I am a pretty good avocado chooser on my own, actually.  I don’t think I appear perplexed, or anything.  And no people, Hispanic or otherwise, male or female, have offered to help me choose any other kind of produce.  So…  just the avocados, then? Weird.

I took my van in for service today, because mice has chewed up the hood liner and made a nest up in/on the cabin air filter.  So, every time we turned the car on, the air blowing on our faces was blowing through a mouse nest.  You can imagine how pleasant that was.  UGH.

Lily picked out flowers for our table, at the grocery store yesterday.  I steered her towards the carnations, because they last FOREVER.  I love carnations in a bunch on the table.

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I am stumped as to what color to repaint the hallway.  I keep thinking and thinking about it.

I also keep thinking about the trim and the doors, and the colors thereof.

I keep thinking that the white-trim-and-doors thing is going to turn out to be a fad, and I will be glad that I didn’t spend a lot of energy/time/money redoing all my trim and doors.  However, it seems to be sticking around.  I object, though, to what seems to be a prevalent idea that that’s the ONLY way one’s home can look acceptable.

We have a 1970s ranch house.  The trim is all stained dark wood.  I actually don’t mind it.  It certainly wears well and it matches well throughout the house.  And in the kids’ rooms, which are painted light aqua and spring green, it looks really GOOD with the rich brown trim, in my opinion.  Like pastels and chocolate.  I like it.

It seems that the doors in my home (inexpensive hollow core doors that I am not particularly attached to one way or the other) were at one time stained dark to match the trim.  Then at some point, someone (not us) painted them cream.  So they all look the same, but none of them match the dark trim.

I can imagine that painting the doors cream lightened up the feel of the home considerably, but honestly I would rather have them matching.

I am rambling about paint.  Yay.

I do think a lot about it, though.

I am not satisfied with how the hallway turned out.  I am going to repaint it a lighter color.  Just not sure WHICH lighter color.  I keep looking online for inspiration, but across the board, all the homes on DIY blogs or decorating blogs have white white white trim.  White trim everywhere.  White trim as far as the eye can see.  And I do think it looks really NICE in a lot of cases.  It’s just…it’s just so very across the board that I am frustrated by not being able to find pictures to help me visualize what I want to do.  And I feel like all those pictures, just EXISTING, on the INTERNET, are pressuring me to conform.

Grr.

(Do I sound insane?  I feel a little insane over this.)

Saturday through now

This last weekend, on Saturday, I had a MASSAGE.  It was awesome!  I truly felt like my whole body was being deeply respected and well cared for.  It was amazing.  Like, not only physically good but emotionally good.

I went out to lunch afterward with my aunt and my mother.  We talked about things like my grandmother’s 90th birthday party, and the stacks of pictures in her basement.  Ideas were mentioned about “getting organized” and “dealing with the pictures”, I think with the idea that we’d probably better get ON that.

We got a new (to us!) couch on Saturday, too!  We gave away our 12-year-old futon (our primary seating in the family room), and replaced it with a couch that my mom wanted to get rid of because she bought new furniture and this couch never fit right in her room.  I am THRILLED with the exchange.  We have a real couch!  Like a real couch like grownup people have!  And it’s SOOOOOO cushy, compared to the futon.  The futon had solid wood arms, so it was a nice place to set drinks when sitting around watching TV, and now we have to use the coffee table.  But I think I can handle that.  Those solid wood arms were always scary when the kids roughhoused on the couch anyway.  More than one head has been clunked really hard on them.  So this is better.  And now I have a couch!  We gave up the sleeping option of the futon, but honestly, since it’s 12 years old and sort of sprung by this time, I don’t think it was super comfy for guests anymore anyway.  Better to put them on the platform beds and air mattress downstairs.  That’s what I think.  Also, COUCH!

Saturday night we had family movie night on the new couch.  It was good.  I need to come up with some new movies to add to the list, though.  Need to be able to stream them on Netflix.  Can’t be too weird or scary for L, but have to be interesting for the rest of us.  Shorter is better…about an hour is a really good length for us right now.  So…suggestions are welcome!

Sunday, I declared that we were not going to church, because we’d really just had too much going on, and my cousin and his wife were coming to visit at noon.  Staying home for the morning was just what we needed.  Except.  Hang on a minute.  I didn’t totally stay home.  I forgot…I went to the grocery store, to get vegetable broth for the soup I was making to feed my company!  So, it was good to go to the store by myself.

My cousin and his wife live in Chicago.  They came out here to the burbs on the train.  We went to my dad’s donut shop, got local Mexican food, and hung out and played board games with lego star wars minifigs for pieces until dinner time.   I made vegetarian potato soup, bread, green salad, and fruit for dinner.  We tried star fruit for the first time, and all agreed it had the taste and texture of apples.  Yum.  It was pretty awesome.  We got caught up about different parts of the family members, and agreed that pouring your energy into those people who pour energy into you is a good idea.  So.  Glad we agree!  Next visit might be in February, and perhaps we’ll go into Chicago and take the kids to a museum or something.  (Cousin and wife don’t have kids yet, but love hanging out with mine.  Sweet deal.)

Monday was MLK day, and Rob’s office was closed and N was off school.  So we were able to all be home together, which was nice.  We took the kids to a jumpy house place, which was, of course, mobbed because of the holiday.  Rob and I prepped for Tuesday’s CS meeting.  We ate leftover soup.  It was good.

Tuesday, my major accomplishment was getting final prep done for the CS meeting.  I don’t know if you know this, but I am kind of a procrastinator, without ACTUALLY being a total slacker.  So I put things off and put them off, and kind of refuse to work ahead, but then I don’t want to do a shitty job at things or actually blow them off, so I end up putting in a lot of effort right at the end.  Lifelong habit.  Hard to break.  So, yeah.  I did manage to pull it together, and I think the meeting went well, I communicated necessary info to the parents, and we’re on board to get all the kids their badges at the B&G banquet in February.  Whew!  After this, we’ve finished all the REQUIREMENTS for the year, and we’re on to just fun stuff and electives and it’s more loosey goosey.  I need ideas.  I have asked the parents in the group but not gotten too much response.  We’ll just have to be creative I guess.

On Wednesday, yesterday, I met my friend for coffee and we sat there for TWO HOURS talking.  Lily had a chocolate milk and a squeezey applesauce thing, and when she got bored with playing around our feet, I pulled out the Leap Pad and let her play that.  This is one thing that Nathan would not have done at her age.  The Leap Pad would definitely not have kept his interest for an hour.  (An hour!  Shocker!  Slacker Mom Sucks Down White Chocolate Mocha and Gabs About Important Things Like Literature and Pinewood Derby While Toddler Melts Brain Cells But Also Practices Writing Her Letters and Blow Drying Her Imaginary Pet Which Is Actually The Cutest Thing Ever Because She Has To BLOW INTO THE LEAP PAD, OMG!  Details at 11!)

I also did some laundry on Wednesday.

Now it is Thursday, and Rob and I have agreed we need a new mattress, so I am researching mattresses.  Anyone bought a mattress lately?  It seems like a giant racket, designed to confuse and rip off the consumer.  I’m just sayin’.  Advice would be handy.  Thanks!

Oh!  I bought JEGGINGS and gosh darnit if they are not the most comfortable things in the whole entire world.  Jeggings and black corduroy leggings.  I love them.  I promise not to wear them as pants, and I think I need to find a knee-length skirt or two to really get the most use out of them, but I love them.

I feel like my wardrobe is moving in a kind of fun direction, and I like it. But it’s not totally there yet, and there are gaps I need to fill.  I tried to find skirts at the thrift shop yesterday, but no luck.  What I really want is a-line corduroy knee-length or just above knee.  Think how cute those would look with leggings and boots.  Think about it!  I would be adorable, people!

Okay, off to switch the laundry around.  Adios!

Mommy’s legs are a boat

The best way I can think of to get L to comply with my wishes, without it turning into a giant battle of wills, is to get creative with how I request things.  This takes mental energy, and I am not always up for it.  But it DOES seem to work, and I’m hoping these methods don’t stop working any time soon!

1. If I want her to go somewhere (like go to her room to get dressed, or to the bathroom for teeth brushing or something), she will not go just because I ask her to.  But she WILL go if I make i a race.  ”Hey Lily, race you to your room!  Ready, set, go!”  Hint: she always wins.

2. This morning, I needed to walk to the pantry without her clinging to my legs and crying about something, so I made a game of stepping on the floor tiles only in a certain way.  All of a sudden, compliance!

3. I wanted to change her diaper and get her dressed.  She REFUSES to comply, so I made that a game too.  The lying down for diaper part was pretending she was a baby lying on a cloth I’d put on the floor.  Getting dressed was “mommy’s legs are the boat and all the floor is ocean.  Don’t fall into the ocean until you get your floatie on!”

It would be easier if she would just do what I said when I told her to do it, but…well…that doesn’t really work so well these days.  Creativity is not always easy, but it does seem to have good effects.

The one with the boots

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This is us on New Year’s Eve 2013!

And on New Year’s Eve 2003!

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Just goes to show some things never change.

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This is me, wearing THE BOOTS.  I bought them.  And I love them.  I am coming up with different ways to style them (skirts and tights! ETC!)  But for this morning, for walking down to the bus stop when it was TWELVE DEGREES out, I wore them thusly: boots, jeans wadded up and shoved in, snow parka-type winter coat, black gloves, nordic black and white ski hat that I have had for at least a decade and that never ever shows any signs of wear AT ALL.  No joke.  Now I have to buy my coats to match the hat, because the hat is not going anywhere, ever, apparently.  Ha.

So, we walked down to the bus stop in the freezing weather, and then L wanted to play outside  for a bit when we got back to our driveway, so I ran in and got the tripod and camera, and had myself a little photo shoot in the front yard.  Decided that the neighbors might think I was weird and/or crazy for getting out a TRIPOD and taking pictures of myself at 8:00 in the morning, for goodness sake, but that I did not care.  :P

So…here are the boots!  They are awesome.

I just ordered some tights (emerald and charcoal) from the site, “We Love Colors”.  I hope they are good tights.  I am down to one really good pair left (they are, like my hat, many years old, but tough as nails.  They are Lane Bryant brand from before they switched to selling all Spanx stuff, and they are the best tights in the history of the world.  They have a really high waist, which I love, because they don’t roll down and they keep everything warm and snug.  But they are finally (after literally many many years of wear and machine washing), starting to droop a little.  So, since I’m trying to live a more skirt-oriented life, and I live in Illinois where it is COLD in the winter, I need tights.  And/or leggings.  Anyone have any good leads on tights and leggings?  I actually think I might get a pair of demin jeggings.  I was against them until I realized how cute they might be with my boots and a sweater dress.  Or something like that,

I bought a purple sweater dress at the thrift store yesterday.  I need my new tights to get here so I can figure out how to wear the dress.  It’s purple, people.  Apparently I am sick and tired of my mommy uniform.  Ha!

Okay, gotta go eat my lunch.  Wraps, made with turkey, swiss, avocado, and salsa.  YUMMERS.

Oh, P.S. Lily got up at 4:30 in the morning today, and she’s still awake.

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The birthday kept going!  I don’t mean to go on and on about it, but I was talking with my sister on Tuesday, and she asked if I’d liked the birthday gift she’d left for me when she stayed here at Christmas.  Um…totally forgot it was in the house!  So I headed down to the basement, and there, lo and behold, was a wrapped gift for me, from Hilary.  Inside were a very lovely plum and fuchsia bracelet (that I’d admired in a store when we were together and which she swooped in behind me and picked up without me realizing it!) and also a long beaded warm-neutral necklace that can be worn as one long loop or doubled over.

I just…honestly, friends, I felt so wrapped in love from my family and my friends.  I did not expect all of this.  In fact, on Friday, I was talking to my sister about how I was not sure anybody would make a deal of my birthday at all.  Not in a mopey way, really, but in a “I guess this is what being a grownup is about” kind of way.  So, a big thank you to everyone, for the well-wishing, and the little notes, and the cards and gifts and celebrations.  It was really REALLY nice, and I felt very warm and cozy and secure and snuggled up in all of it.  Thank you.

On Tuesday, I started getting Christmas decorations down.  And started Baby Steps on Flylady again.  I shined my sink!  I’ve done the Flylady thing enough times that I have internalized a lot of the messages, and I know which parts I am likely to blow off, and I’m OKAY with blowing off parts of it, because I don’t expect it to be a complete fix-all, but that I enjoy the structure of it and the affirming little messages and that I like the whole idea of it, so I’m starting it up again and my sink is shined and yes.  Here I go.

After the kids went to bed on Tuesday, I asked Rob to come watch TV with me, and he looked at the stack of dishes that needed hand washing, and asked me if I’d rather he wash dishes or watch TV with me.  I voted for TV, because the shows we watch together, I don’t want to watch separately.  So I had a stack of hand wash dishes next to the sink to deal with on Wednesday, but I knew it would only take about 10 minutes to get through them.  I hadn’t DONE them yet, but I didn’t RESENT them being there.  :)

Let’s see…what else?  I know!  Pictures of my kid!  It’s not the same without them.  This is Lily, on Christmas Eve, at my mother’s house, wearing her Christmas sweater dress and also a pink zebra butterfly tutu and wings that she got from Grandma and Grandpa.  Sometimes I feel like every picture of my kids is my favorite picture ever, but seriously these are close to the top.  :)

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I left the house this morning, for the first time in three days.  I hadn’t been out since we came home from dinner on Monday night.  But that was okay, because I got a ton of stuff done inside.

I did get all the Christmas decor down and boxed up and out away, including the Christmas tree, which was about a two hour job in itself.  I took down the most obvious Christmas lights from outside, and plan to get the rest (the ones hidden in the bushes) today, before it starts raining.  I brought a second chair up to the living room from the basement, and made it look like a living room instead of a play room.  Maybe I’ll make the kids play in the basement.  This is a regular thought process of mine.

I’ve been a faithful Flylady follower for three whole days now, shining my sink and getting showered and dressed first thing in the morning.  I tell ya, that showering and getting dressed thing is really awesome.  I mean, I KNOW it’s a good thing to do, but for YEARS now I have pretended that I COULD NOT get showered first thing, because of the CHILDREN.  They do make a handy excuse.  So I wold get up and feed the kids and start their days, really, before getting around to (or not getting around to) showering and getting myself ready for my day.  Then I would either shortchange my own prep, or skip it altogether, and be rushing to things unshowered and/or not feeling at my best.

So, it’s not like a gigantic revelation or anything, but since I AM a morning person by nature, I really think I can make more of an effort to work with my natural rhythms and get up and get showered before the day gets away from me.  Before kids, I was always the one to get up and get ready first, then wake Rob up.

So, I have enjoyed getting up and being ready to start my day earlier than normal.  It’s nice.

Um, what else?

Yesterday, Lily came out of her bedroom with a pruney, wrinkly thumb in the morning.  She asked me why it was wrinkly, and I said, “You were probably sucking your thumb while you were sleeping.”  She denied it, and said, “I probably took a baff while I sleeping.”

Okay, I’m going to go make my lunch.  Lily’s eating (or fooling around) and I’m sort of hungry.

Parenting a ball of wild, defiant lightning

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We have had a lot of days, lately, of no naps for Lillian.  Honestly, her not napping makes the bedtime routine go a whole lot more quickly (like 15 minutes to sleep instead of an hour and a half), so I’m kind of neither her nor there on the issue itself.  But on Friday, we went to the grocery store in the afternoon (about 2:30.)  Lily fell asleep on the way there.  I thought for sure she’d wake up when I took her out of the cozy car into the 30-degree parking lot, but nope!  She just buried her face in my neck and kept sleeping.  Same for transferring to the grocery cart.  I took my coat off and wadded it up for a little pillow for her.  She snoozed through at least 30 minutes of grocery shopping.  She got all kinds of admiring looks from other shoppers.  I snapped this picture of her in the butter aisle with my phone.  :)

Saturday, we were at church at noon for Pinewood Derby.  It was crazy!  My parents and my in-laws both came to see the races.  I hope they realized beforehand that it was going to be EIGHTY KIDS plus assorted parents and grandparents and siblings.  It was NUTS.  But you can’t stop these people (I love how much they want to attend events, even events that I am not always so keen on attending myself, you know?  Haha…does that make me a horrible parent?  Can I admit in public that I think Sunday School Christmas pageants are a teeny bit boring?  That I think it’s a little silly that my two-year-old would have a role in such a thing?  Did I ever tell that story?  OMG, it was insane.  Let me get you a picture, here.)

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So, back in the middle of December, Nate was a shepherd for the Sunday School pageant.  All of his Sunday School class were shepherds and angels.  They were SUPER CUTE.  My goodness, they were cute.  Their role was to wear their costumes, sit in a pew, and come up to the front when it was their class’s turn, and recite some lines and then sing a song.  Nate did great.  Awesome kid.  He didn’t want a solo line, but that was fine.  He did the lines with his class, and sang enthusiastically when it was time.  Best little shepherd ever.  All good.

Lily?  My darling, sweet little babycakes Lily?  She and I had a role.  Along with another mom and 2.5-year-old, representing the nursery class of children, we were supposed to go up to the front, say our lines, hang an ornament on the tree, and then the kids were supposed to ring some jingle bells.  The other boy?  Stood by his mom while she read her lines, and then rang his jingle bells.  Right?  Right.  Lily, on the other hand, while I was reading my lines and kind of had to stay put and do my part…wandered all over the dais, climbed into the pulpit, and announced loudly that she wanted to talk there like a Mommy.  She also refused to ring her jingle bells.  Then, when our part was done, I took her in the narthex.  She ran away from me (RAN!) into the fellowship hall, and snatched (SNATCHED!  SO FAST!) a cookie from a plate and shoved it into her mouth before I could catch her.  I took her in the bathroom to clean the green frosting off her face, and then I took her in a stall with me so I could use the bathroom.  I chose the handicap stall so we’d have a little more room in there together, but Lily went and opened the door, ignoring me, and walked out when I was totally not in a position to stop her.  I was just hoping nobody would walk in!  Then she wanted a drink of water from the fountain, but she ADAMANTLY refused all help, and instead chose to squirt herself in the face over and over again with the water in her attempts to get it her own blessed self, completely soaking her dress in the process.  She spent the rest of the pageant running back and forth in the narthex from couch to couch, flinging her body on one and then bouncing off and flinging herself on the other one.

WHEW!  That child is a handful.  I love her extremely extremely much, but it is so tiring to parent her these days!  It is like being the parent to a ball of wild, defiant energy and lightning.  She gets this look in her eye, when she’s being so wild, where I can tell she’s just filled with the total joy and thrill of going fast and being crazy.  She ignores all my stern looks and stern voices, and just goes WHEEEEEEEEEEEEE on the thrillcoaster of defiance.  I hope hope hope that it is a phase, and that turning three will have some kind of calming effect.

SO ANYWAY, yes, a lot of the grandparents came to Pinewood Derby, and it was nuts, but I’m glad we have grandparents who want to come to these kinds of things, because it’s sort of awesome to have these family members around and involved, and Lily is a handful, the end.

Could go either way…

I am wearing an outfit today that could be really awesome (aka I am actually a cool fashion blogger) or maybe it is extremely dorky.  I’m not quite sure, but I like it, so I’m wearing it anyway.  I think that makes me a super cool fashion person.

Outfit:

Narrow dark jeans (labeled “skinny” but they’re not skin tight)
Black and grey striped long sleeve t
short black gathered t over the other one
silver bangle bracelet
the knit belt from a grey and coral striped wrap sweater, worn as a necklace with a big floppy bow

Maybe I look like a clown.  I’m not sure.  But I like it, so…here I go to Hobby Lobby and the library, where fashion MATTERS A WHOLE LOT. Not.

Happy New Year 2013!

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Happy New Year, everyone!

That picture up there is my two kids plus my baby nephew, all sitting on a sled in my own backyard.  I am really obsessed with taking pictures of the three of them together.

Case in point(s)…

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It’s like I can’t get enough shots of the three of them together.  I can not help myself.

I was delighted to have my sister, her husband, and my sweet baby nephew all stay at my house for a week over the Christmas holidays.  They were originally only going to stay till after a family party on the 26th, but a snow storm in Indianapolis made it reasonable for them to delay their return home by two days.  I could not have been more thrilled.  Yay, more visiting time!  And some downtime, after several days of family gatherings.

My sister is one of my very best friends, and her husband has been Rob’s and my friend since college (he and Rob actually went to high school together, though they didn’t really know each other then.)  They are family with whom I feel so close that they seem like those friends who are so close that they feel like family.  It’s a pretty sweet deal if you can get it.  ;)

Christmas was pretty great.  Having company was pretty great.

Oh!  I got to make Joseph’s Christmas stocking.  I was so excited to do it.  (Can you tell I’m in love with this kid?)  After some discussion with my sister, we settled on this striped piece of vintage fabric I’d gotten from my grandmother’s fabric stash.  It reminds me of the colors of those fruity candy canes.  Now, I am a peppermint candy cane purist, and I kind of think the fruity ones are a crime against nature, but still, I thought this was cheerful and Christmasy, crime against nature or not.

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I have spent some time in between Christmas and now working on editing pictures.  We take so many, and it takes a little time to process them.  It’s an ongoing project, and one I hope to move more towards scrapbooking or digital photobooking again in 2013.  But I’m getting ahead of myself.

Okay, fast forward to New Year’s Eve.  Our friends, Aaron and Serena, and their two girls, came down to spend the night at our house.  We have a tradition of spending New Year’s together, and I’m glad we were able to do it again this year.  (I am all about the hosting this season, apparently!  I have been in my element.)  The kids exchanged Christmas gifts, and we did a little craft project.  We did make-your-own pizzas for dinner, and Serena made a chocolate cake with her very amazing chocolate frosting.  I want to eat that frosting by itself.

We all four called the home of other good friends who were having a New Year’s Eve on their own at home.

We gave the kids noisemakers and silly New Year’s hats and masks at about 9:00.  We put them all to bed around 10:30 I think.  Nate and the older of the two girls had a sleepover on his bedroom floor, and I had to keep going in there and shooshing them.  It made me smile, and reminded me of sleepovers with family friends when I was a kid.

The kids eventually all (mostly) went to sleep, and I made myself a white Russian (Kahlua, vodka, cream.)  It was yummers.  I tried a wine first, but it gave me an allergic reaction so I had to switch to the hard stuff.  Woe is me!  We tried to find the NYC ball-drop being shown in Central time, but no dice.  Watched episodes of Portlandia instead, and switched over to dumb Chicago televised party thing for the countdown.  Kissed, took pictures, toasted with a sweet sparkling wine.  It was good.

We ended up staying up way way way late (at least for me it was way late.)  I was the first one to go to bed, and it was 2:30!  I regretted it when Lily demanded my presence at 4:00, and then I had to re-shoosh the two older kids at 6:00 when they thought maybe they’d get up for the day (denied.)  So, I was all tired from staying up too late, but it was time spent with friends, and really nothing that a good couple cups of coffee couldn’t see me through.  So that’s what I did.  And it was good.

We took the kids to an open gym on New Year’s Day, and they had a good time.  Nate did gigantic jumps off the tumble track into the pit.  Lily has apparently forgotten how to jump fearlessly off the track into the pit, and instead would jump wildly down the track and then turn around and scoot herself over the edge.  Silly girl.

Today was Rob’s first day back at work after quite a long Christmas break.  He’d been home since the 21st.  I missed him a lot today!

I took the kids to my friend’s house for a playdate (and coffee for the grownups!)  I am loving the age that my kids are, now.  They could both play and keep themselves amused (which they did!) for good big chunks of time, and I don’t have to really worry about Lily going up and down the stairs anymore.  The friends have a really nice dog, named Sophie, which Lily ADORES.  She just laughs and laughs at the dog, and says, “Ohhhhh, Sophie!!!!”  So cute.

At home, we’re in the final stages of getting Nate’s Pinewood Derby car ready for Friday.  Rob and Nathan shaped it, and painted it.  We’ve taken the car (with axles and wheels) to the post office a couple of times to weigh it on the scales.  We bought weights, but decided to go back to the hobby shop for different ones that will (hopefully) be easier to attach to the car without a drill press.  Anyone local have a drill press?  I haven’t used one since 8th grade shop class, but I KNOW it’s the tool that I need.  Oh well.  :)

Did you all take shop class?  When I was in junior high (7th and 8th grade), it was a requirement.  Everyone took computers, wood shop, sewing, and cooking, each for half a semester.  Everyone also took foreign language, art, and music, each for a third of the year.  Complicated grading system, I bet!  I’m really grateful that I was exposed to so many different things in school, though.  The things I learned back then have actually come in handy quite a lot in my life.  Just having a basic understanding of tools has been pretty helpful to me as a homeowner, for instance.

I think I’m ready to start taking Christmas decorations down.  I usually keep things up until January 6th (Epiphany), but I’m starting to get tired of looking at some of it.  I’m ready for my annual January Clear-the-Surfaces and Snowflakes-in-the-Windows events.

Hey, wanna see a cool picture?

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Lily wrote her name.  HER NAME.  SHE WROTE IT.  I know it’s mirrored writing, but people, I did not teach her to write her name or any letters AT ALL.  She just up and DID IT.  She had been coloring a picture one morning in the middle of December.  Nate (in an “I go to school so I know what’s what” voice) told her “Lily, you have to write your name at the top.”  And she looked at her paper, and then she produced THIS!  If you look, starting at the right, and realizing that she’s making the letters backwards, you can see that there’s an L, an I, another L, and a Y.  My jaw just about hit the floor.  Nate was pretty impressed too, and asked if he could take it to school to show his teacher.  I let him do it, and unfortunately I think it got lost in the shuffle at school.  So I’m glad I took a picture.  Really glad.  She wrote her NAME.  I still can’t believe it.

Wanna see another cool picture?

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That is me, holding a picture of myself at age 3.  My Aunt Lisa (who lives in my grandma’s house now and takes care of her) has started giving away pictures to people.  My grandma’s memory is in serious decline…she doesn’t really know who we all are anymore.  She’s always held on to things, so she still HAS pretty much EVERYTHING from FOREVER.  My aunt does what she can to keep the house from completely filling up with things, but really, a lot of the things don’t matter too much to Grandma anymore.  Anyway, there are literally photographs in stacks and bundles and envelopes stuffed everywhere, on every flat surface, on every shelf and table, and in every drawer in the house.  Grandma doesn’t get pleasure from ALL of them (not by a long shot), so Aunt Lisa’s starting to give them away.  Long story short, this seems like a fine idea.  And I got this one handed to me when I stopped by on Christmas night.  And Rob took this picture, and I think it’s neat.

Wanna see another couple pictures?

Very proud Auntie Heather and Uncle Rob, in snow, with nephew J…

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Nathan in his new-from-Santa, Spiderman balaclava (which my sister insists on calling a Spiderman Baklava)…

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Lily in the snow.

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Tomorrow I need to print some pictures for family, and get new weights for Nate’s pinewood derby car, and go to the library.

It’s 2013.  It feels like a big year for me.  I’m turning 37 in less than a week.  I think I’m going to dye the tips of my hair purple, for funsies.  It’s going to be our 10th wedding anniversary this year, and both of our 20th high school reunions.  Those things seem significant.  I want to put the photos and the words together more, in some way that is off the computer.  I want to be healthier and feel healthier and frankly wear smaller clothes.  (It may be trite but it’s the truth!)  I want to host more things.  I want to be more patient and more present and more proactive.

Not sure how to wrap this up, so I’ll just say goodnight.  Goodnight.  :)

 

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I think I’m about 2/3 done with Christmas shopping.  I have just a couple adults still to buy for, and then stocking stuffers to figure out.  Oh, and I want to round out L’s gifts a little more.  I somehow ended up with a lot more things for N than L.  It’s easier for me to justify purchases for N  here and there, because he doesn’t have an older sibling handing things down to him.  So over time, I collected quite a little stash of things I think he’ll like.  L, on the other hand, I find it harder to buy new toys for, because we have a house full of toys already, and I can always find something she hasn’t seen before.  Does that even make sense?

I did get her some doll clothes for her favorite baby and two “magic” baby bottles, where you tip it up and the liquid disappears?  I  think she’s going to love that.

She is such a little mommy to her dolls.  One doll in particular.  It’s a baby doll, and she has named it “Little Susie Sunshine” (which I think she might have picked up from Doc McStuffins on TV, but I don’t really know because I do not watch that show and know all the characters.)  Anyway, Little Susie Sunshine is the preferred doll, so I thought L might like some clothes for her.  Rob get her some velvet marker-coloring stickers, which I think she will really dig.  She loves puzzles lately, and I think Rob picked up one of those.

Today, as we walked in to JC Penney, L was asking me to buy her a shirt.  A shirt with a picture on it.  Would I PLEASE buy her a shirt with a picture on it?  I suggested she ask Santa for a shirt with a picture on it, but she was not interested in that.  She does not want to ask Santa for anything.

We made a couple of returns today, to various stores (thus the JC Penney trip).  The return counter for JCP is back by the curtains section, and stealthy little L snuck off while I was doing the return, and hid behind some of the display curtains.  We could see just her little shoes peeking out the bottom.  It was really cute.  I would catch her peeking out every once in a while, then closing the curtains around herself again.

OH!  I just remembered that (ahem…) SANTA needs to (ahem…) MAKE a certain Lego set in time for Christmas.  I’d better remind Santa to get busy with that.  Note to self: remind Santa of Santa stuff.  As all good parents do.

I sort of made a decision to limit my internet time from now until the end of the year.  Call it an early New Year’s resolution, perhaps.  I just have been wasting too much time on it, and then the things I read (blogs of pretty home renovations, Pinterest) are making me feel crummy and like I don’t do enough and I’m not young and hip enough for the internet.  I KNOW.  Ridiculous.  Right?  Because I’m one of the coolest and hippest people you know, right?  Ha ha.  I know that it’s not true, but I’m trying to head off some crummy feelings by just limiting my exposure.  So, LJ and reading blogs of people I know?  Yes.  I think that form of communication is good for the ole’ noodle.  Reading design blogs and fahsion blogs and trolling Pinterest for entertainment?  Cracking down on minutes spent that way because it’s making me feel inferior and crummy, and who needs that?

Also, frankly, I have a lot to do right now, and I could use those minutes more wisely.

Rookie Mistake

I went Christmas shopping with L this morning at Kohls, and the experience was was pretty awful.  It was a spontaneous trip, which was a rookie mistake.  I didn’t have snacks or diversions with me, which was more evidence of the rookie mistake.  She didn’t want to ride in the cart, but wouldn’t stay with me in the store.  I don’t need her glued to my leg, but she can’t be running away either.  Her favorite trick this morning was to go just far enough from me that she could pretend she didn’t hear me talking to her.  Then I’d have to raise my voice, or else go to her.  See?  She would not come to me.  I started out encouraging and engaging, but soon devolved to counting, and time-outing, and hissing threats to her, and buckling her in the cart.  (Buckled, she yells and screams.  Unbuckled she runs away.  I CAN NOT WIN.)  It wasn’t constant, but it was over and over.

Okay, well, I am feeling better now than I was then.  Let’s just say that.

Oh, this was funny, though…  I told her we could pick out a gift for N.  I told here while we were standing in the young women’s section, and L was enchanted by the jewelry.  She picked out a flowered hair clip and a jeweled ring for N.  I hemmed and hawed a bit, and tried to get her to want to go to the toy section.  I said N didn’t really have the right kind of hair for a hair clip.  And then L emphasized the ring to me, and said, “He has FINGERS, Mommy.”

Dude, reading that, I think I should have let her get the ring.  I didn’t though.  I moved us to the toy section, where she (I) picked out a motorcycle racing toy.  Hmmm…food for thought.

Speaking of food, dinner (ribs) is (are) in the crock pot, starting to smell yummy.

I printed out my list of Christmas card addresses, which I use every year and then hardly ever access again during the year.  All of my addresses are still in my old Palm Pilot software (remember Palm Pilots?) on my desktop computer.  The palm pilot itself has not been touched in years and most possibly does not actually work anymore.  Keeping my addresses in its specific software is an extremely clunky system for keeping up with one’s correspondence.  Really, a paper address book would be more convenient.  I have exported the list to a spreadsheet more than once over time (so’s I can print it and take it around the house with me to the places where I want to sit and address Christmas cards, which is never at my desk in the basement), but I can never remember what I called it, so I can never find it again come December.  So I found A list, SOME list, from SOME year, and I printed it out, but I can tell from looking at it that it’s a couple of years old.

But, whatevs.

I have 20 minutes before N gets home from school.  I think I’ll go get something useful done.  Once he gets home, it’s quick snack and then off to swim lessons.